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Woman told she’d never have kids earns her master’s while having two kids

She "left school with nothing."

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By Ashley Pemberton via SWNS

A woman who was told she'd never have kids has graduated with a master's degree accompanied by her two children, whom she was pregnant with while she studied.

Stacey Withington, 34, "left school with nothing" but 18 years on, she posed for an adorable photo with son Jamie, 4, and nine-week-old daughter Sophia.

Stacey Withington with baby Sophia at son Jamie at her master's graduation ceremony in 2022. (Stacey Withington via SWNS)

She gained a distinction in her master's in counseling and positive psychology which she completed while pregnant with her daughter.

It followed a first-class honors degree in criminological forensic psychology, which she gained in 2019 after giving birth to Jamie during her studies in October 2017.

Stacey said: "I remember just sitting there and looking at the stage getting a bit emotional. My little boy was sitting there and he kept smiling at me.

Stacey Withington with partner Lee Whelan and son Jamie at her first graduation in 2019. (Via SWNS)

"My mom and dad offered to look after the children for the day but I wanted them to be there and be in the pictures to show them it can be done.

"I want them to see the pictures of them at my graduation and be inspired."

Stacey, of Bolton, UK, left school with no grades above D in 2004 and started working at a supermarket while studying childcare at college.

Around the same time, she went to the doctors to seek contraception advice but was told by a doctor she wouldn't have kids because her periods were so irregular.

After falling in love with Psychology, she enrolled in an access course in 2014, which allowed her to embark on her undergrad course in 2016.

And during her second year, she was shocked to find out she was pregnant with Jamie.

She suffered from cholestasis during her pregnancy, which caused complications that almost killed Jamie during labor.

But just two weeks after giving birth, she was back in lectures and completing her course.

She said: "I had to do six pregnancy tests before I believed them."

"I got pregnant bang in the middle of my second year and I gave birth in October of the third year. I was induced at eight months due to the risk of stillbirth.

"His heart rate was dangerously low and the emergency team had to come and get him out.

"Two weeks after giving birth, I was back in the lecture halls. I knew my third year was the most important so I didn't want to fall behind.

"My mom and dad were quite a big support and our childminder lives around the corner so I was straight back into it."

History repeated itself while she was studying for her masters when she became pregnant again with Sophie - and again she suffered from cholestasis.

This time, she almost died during labor after being rushed for an emergency C-section and losing too much blood.

She added: "I always knew I wanted to do a master's and I knew which course I wanted to do. It was meant to be an 18-month course but it was extended due to COVID.

"In October last year, I found out I was pregnant with Sophia. It was a happy surprise.

"We'd spoken about trying again as we were aware I could have children, but we weren't trying at the time, she just happened happily.

"When I was pregnant with Jamie, I was diagnosed with cholestasis in the third trimester, but with Sophia I had it from day dot.

"I was in hospital every week and was treated for asthma caused by pregnancy."

During the pregnancy, she also caught COVID-19 and was induced earlier than she was with Jamie.

But after a few weeks of recovery after another traumatic labor, she was completing her a dissertation which helped her complete a second top-class degree.

Stacey also completed her master's course while running Beyoutiful Reflections, a private counseling practice she co-owns that offers therapy sessions.

And earlier this month, little Sophia joined her brother and dad to watch Stacey's graduation ceremony at The Albert Halls in Bolton.

Stacey added: "If somebody was to tell me years ago that I'd be graduating with two degrees and I'd do so well I'd never have believed that.

"When I left school, I thought I'd be working at Asda for the rest of my life."

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