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Pregnant wife shares shocking story of her husband in love with her sister

The mom-to-be claims he confessed he had loved her sister for years - but still wants to make their marriage work.

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By Amy Reast via SWNS

A pregnant woman was left horrified after her husband allegedly drunkenly revealed he was in love - with her SISTER.

The mom-to-be claims he confessed he had loved her sister for years - but still wants to make their marriage work.

The shocked woman took to Reddit to share her devastating situation in a series of installments, posted as the situation developed.

She first told how her sister had been her protector and best friend through a tough childhood, and they had a close relationship.

The woman's sister then got engaged - prompting her own husband to confess his secret.

Her original post read: "My sister met her BF a year ago. He got along very well with me and my husband although I always felt that my husband never really liked the guy.

"When I asked him once why he didn’t like him, he got flustered and told me that he didn’t know it was noticeable and apologized. He told me he just didn’t think he was good enough for her.

"Her BF proposed to my sister last night.

"We were just having pizzas and they were having beers in my sister's balcony and the BF just suddenly went down on his knees and took out a ring. She was very surprised but happy all the same and said yes.

"When we went back home my husband was a little tipsy. He told me he wasn’t tired and that he’s going to take one more beer and watch TV and that I should go to bed.

"I went back to the living area and he was sitting there crying. I asked him what’s going on and he told me that he was in love with my sister. Has been for years but that he knew how wrong this was.

"He told me that loved me very much and promised to be a good husband and father to our daughter. He slept on the couch. He’s still sleeping now."

Reflecting on the situation, she said: "I don’t know what to do or how to feel about this.

"My sister, should I tell her? Nothing can be the same again but she’s my only family and my best friend.

"And my husband. Is this over? I have been so blind now I see everything, of course he’s in love with her how could I be shocked now? Can I save this marriage? And my baby?"

"I promised her a better life than the one I had. I promised her kind and loving parents. I can’t let her come to this world with estranged parents and new people in their lives.

"What can I do?"

She later shared another update after having spoken to her husband, who apologized for hurting her.

She said: "He told me he loved me very much and he wanted for this to work for us and the baby.

"I asked him if he loved her more than me and he said it’s just a different type of love."

She later added: "I asked him if has stayed with me all these years to be near her. He said I was being unfair to him because he did love me."

She went on to explain that her husband vowed to do whatever it took to save the marriage and raise their child - and they agreed to start marriage counseling.

In a second update, she told how they had been to dinner with her sister and her sister's new fiancé.

She said: "My husband was unusually silent and didn’t initiate any talk with my sister. And he barely looked at her."

He had congratulated her sister on her engagement and given her a hug for "longer than usual" and was then silent on the way home.

After arriving back at home he told her again he will do anything to make the marriage work - but also asked her not to tell anyone about his confession.

In a third update, she revealed she had asked her husband for separation while she thinks about the situation, and they begin counseling.

She said: "He cried when I told him that I wanted to separate. He told me he has lost everything in one day because of a drunk confession that meant nothing.

"He loves me and he wants to be with me. He suggested that we move away.

"He has had job offers in other cities on several occasions. He said this could be our new start."

In the meantime, they will remain separated with her husband living in their basement.

The OP decided not to tell her sister.

She said: "This is my battle and my marriage. I love my sister so much but I’ll be very honest here.

"I resent her. I’m jealous of her and I think I have always been jealous of her. She’s a way better person than I am."

She added: "I HATE that she’s so good to me and my husband. I hate that he sees how much better of a person she is and I hate that I don’t blame [my husband] for loving her instead of me."

People rushed to share their advice - with many saying she should leave the relationship for the sake of her mental health.

One said: "Your decision will be do you want to live your life knowing your courtship and marriage was not the truth for him. Can you trust him to change to realize that his love was a fantasy. Can you live with your sister always thinking he’s looking at her first and settling for you?

"Hard questions to answer that must be answered for you to have a happy life going forward."

Another said: "You never want to be anyone’s second choice when it comes to love. I’d ask myself, how much my peace of mind cost in terms of years?

"Would I be willing to give up years of my life questioning the intentions of my husband?"

Others suggested she should leave for the sake of their unborn daughter - and that it would be better to have separated parents than see their parents' relationship fall apart.

One said: "Children KNOW when a relationship is unhealthy, and they will be happier and better in a single-parent home when the parent is happy, than in one where there is fighting or drama."

Another agreed, saying: "As a child that was strung along in a family with parents that should have been divorced when I was a toddler, please separate if thing don't work out.

"Don't 'stay together for the kids'."

A third said: "Having divorced parents won't be traumatizing to the child if they're good co-parents.

"Having a father in love with their aunt might be traumatizing though. I can definitely see it causing a lot of resentment between the parents."

Others worried about the impact it could have on her sister and their relationship - with people unanimously agreeing her sister is totally innocent.

One said: "Do you want your children to have a relationship with their aunt? Kids say the darndest things and you want your husband to have no contact with their aunt.

"This will come out, eventually. I think I would make the hubby see a counselor on his own because why did he let this get to this point.

"This should have been ringing alarm bells to him long before now."

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