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Expert reveals things she would NEVER do in a relationship

Her motto is: "Let yourself age but don’t let yourself go."

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By Emma Dunn via SWNS

A sex expert has revealed the things she would never do in a relationship - including getting married in less than a year and waiting a set number of dates to have sex.

Emily Jamea, 37, says adhering to outdated dating rules and games, and getting lazy in a relationship are things she would never dream of doing.

Emma - who lives with her husband, Sean Jamea, 48, a real estate developer, and their two children - from Houston, Texas, said: “I would never get married in under a year as you need to time evaluate yourself and the relationship.

“I think this is especially important for younger couples as they will still be figuring themselves out.

“Everyone is on their best behavior in the honeymoon phase, so you need that time see what you want from the relationship.

“An older couple might be OK but as a general guide it’s good to wait a year before making that commitment.”

The second thing Emily would never do is adhere to 'outdated dating rules.'

“It’s also important to not stick to silly and outdated rules and games there are about dating - such as waiting for three dates to have sex or holding off texting someone back. Do what feels right with who you are instead," she said.

“Games might work in the short term but not if you are after something serious.”

Emily is also big on making sure people don’t get lazy or too comfortable around their partner.

Her motto is 'let yourself age but don’t let yourself go.'

“I think we can always get lazy and complacent in relationships.

“Of course, we all have those days where we want to be in our tracksuits but it’s good to still make sure you make an effort.

“We should care for ourselves mentally and physically.

“Maintain a genuine curiosity in your partner and be inquisitive.”

Emily says she thinks it’s important to prioritize your romantic relationship with your partner.

“I still prioritize Sean as we're our base for our whole family,” she said.

“We go out every Saturday for date night even if we don’t feel like it because it’s always great when we go.”

The expert is also keen to make sure people never stop making time for intimacy.

“I think it’s good to schedule sex if that helps,” she said.

“If you think about it, you would do that when you were dating.

“Saying ‘I’ll pick you up at this time to come over to mine’ was an indication of what you both knew would happen.

“Sex is effortless in the honeymoon phase, and you have to have more intention about it as the relationship grows.

“Keeping sex interesting is important too and mixing it up from time to time.

“You don’t need to go Fifty Shades of Grey crazy but experimenting a bit might help.”

Lastly, Emily would never criticize her partner for a sexual issue.

“A lot of my clients who come to me about a sexual issue are most upset about how their partner reacted,” she said.

“It’s important to have a neutral response.

“Their issue might not be anything to do with what you are doing and can be something that can be figured out and worked on.

“If a partner comes to you about an intimacy issue it’s good to take a beat before you respond.”

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