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Dating coach shares major red flags for women to be wary of

"I wanted to raise awareness so women know how to identify these negative behaviors."



By Amy Reast via SWNS

A professional dating coach has shared his list of red flags for women to watch out for in a relationship - including your boyfriend liking other women's photos.

Jacob Lucas, 30, from Westbury, UK, makes a living from assisting people with their love lives.

He warned that liking other women's sexy pictures on social media is "one step away from sliding into her DM's."

His list, comprising three parts, went viral on TikTok after countless users agreed.

Jacob said: "I decided to make these videos because I talk to many women across the world.

"There's a lot of women experiencing the same negative situations with their partners.

"I wanted to raise awareness so women know to identify these negative behaviors from men and know that they do not need to be tolerated in a relationship.

"I want women to know their worth and know their partners should treat them with respect, kindness and love."

Jacobs's tips have gone viral, amassing over 6.5 million views on his social media sites. (Composite image via Daily Motion/SWNS)

He calls out boyfriends who tell girlfriends what they can and can't wear, who they can and can't be friends with and if they say they find other girls more attractive than their own girlfriend.

He believes that a boyfriend should never control what his girlfriend spends her money on, what she should or shouldn't eat, and when she can and can't go out.

Also on the 'no' list is men who like other women's thirst traps on social media, those who continue to talk to their exes when they have a new girlfriend and telling their girlfriends they could get other women if they want.

He highlights three red flags to be the most damaging:

Number one: Telling a girlfriend what she can and can't wear.

He explained: "Men do this because of insecurities and controlling behaviors. They try to project their own emotions onto the relationship which impacts the women.

"Some men try to control what women wear because they get insecure that other men will look at their partner.

"This then starts controlling behaviors in the relationship that can quickly snowball and leak into other areas of the relationship.

"These men need to work on their own self-confidence and allow the woman to wear whatever makes her happy.

"What a woman wears can make her feel more confident and happy about herself and her partner should support this."

His second choice is telling a woman what she should weigh, or what she should or shouldn't eat.

He said: "This controlling behavior can be very dangerous.

"It can make the woman feel very self-conscious and this can lead to eating disorders and body dysmorphia.

"Unfortunately there are many men out there who do this and any woman who finds herself with this type of partner needs to leave them before it becomes even more abusive."

His third and final major red flag was controlling who a girlfriend should and shouldn't have as friends.

He said: "Abusive partners will do this because they want to isolate their partners so they don't have a support network.

"This is very common amongst abusive partners. It starts off with them planting doubts about certain friends.

"Then before it is too late they have isolated them from all their friends making the victim co-dependent upon the abuser.

"It's a very sad and hard position for anyone to be in and if anyone sees this behavior exhibited towards them they need to remove themselves from that relationship."

The videos amassed a combined 6.5 million views for his candid warnings to women.

Many women who had been victims to such behaviors rushed to agree.

One TikTok user commented: "He did all that... lucky I got rid of him."

Another said: "Wish I had known this at 16. So true."

A third added: "The amount of red flags I missed with my now ex! Every one you said, he did."

Jacob added: "The videos went viral and got an overwhelming response with many women identifying with these behaviors in present and former relationships and relating to how hard these situations are and have been.

"Also those who have removed themselves from the situations have said how much relief they felt once they have left those abusive relationships."

For more information about Jacob's services, visit here.

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