Follow for more talkers

6 in 10 LGBTQ+ people think their lives would be ‘easier’ if they were straight

"For lots (not all), our journey is colored with hate, abuse, fear and living in a skin you don't recognize."

Avatar photo


Young handsome arab man wearing striped t-shirt standing over isolated yellow background with hand on head for pain in head because stress. Suffering migraine.
(Shift Drive via Shutterstock)

By Richard Jenkins via 72Point

Six in 10 LGBTQ+ adults think their lives would be ‘easier’ if they were straight, according to a survey from the UK.

And 46 percent suspect life would be less trouble for their families if they were heterosexual.

Research of 2,000 adults, of which 249 were LGBTQ+, also found 34 percent of these have come out via text message.

But one in five heterosexual respondents claim those who do publicly 'come out' only do so 'for attention.'

Two stylish cool affectionate gen z young women looking at camera and hugging. Beautiful lesbian lgbtq couple dating embracing, holding hands together at home. Lgbt love and relationship concept
(Ground Picture via Shutterstock)

The research was commissioned to launch Daniel Harding’s book 'Gay Man Talking: All The Conversations We Never Had.'

It explores the role of the ‘Gay Best Friend’ and other crucial conversations.

The writer and broadcaster said: "Coming out is something no one can ever take for granted.

“To the person doing it, it's potentially the scariest or riskiest thing they'll ever do, and to the people they come out to, it could change their dynamic forever.

"People lose family or friends from this process.

"It comes as no surprise the majority feel their life would be easier if they were not LGBTQ+.

"For lots (not all), our journey is colored with hate, abuse, fear and living in a skin you don't recognize. Who wouldn't dream of an easier path if that was an option?"

"However, despite people often wondering how life would be if we were all society's mold, finding comfort and confidence is paramount in our journey, and that starts with conversations. Because being your true self is vital."

Traditional stereotypes about homosexuality are still commonplace, with 31 percent of all respondents considering the typical gay man to be ‘camp or effeminate.'

Young gay couple smiling happy and hugging at the city.
(Desizned via Shutterstock)

Nearly one in three heterosexuals also believe coming out is ‘no longer an issue,' according to the figures from OnePoll.

More than half (52 percent) have never had anyone come out to them, which most often happens in person, although one in four of these have had someone come out over video call.

But a fifth admit they would be confused about how to handle such a situation if it was ever to come up.

Exactly one in 10 believe they would be accepting, but need some time to ‘adjust’ to the new reality, if a friend or family member came out to them.

A worrying 14 percent of heterosexuals also admit to having bullied someone for being different - a figure that rises steeply to 40 percent in the homosexual community.

Gay author Daniel Harding. (SWNS)

Daniel Harding, whose book 'Gay Man Talking' is available now, added: “I wanted to explore attitudes, challenge stereotypes and have awkward conversations that are often left unsaid, through my book.

“Often, we come out and 'shut up' in fear. But silence is deadly. We need to speak; we need to find allies and support. Are we just the Gay Best Friend, the Gay Son, the Guncle? Do we need a label? Are we comfortable with the one people are giving us?

"There is unfortunately a lot of toxicity inside and outside the LGBTQ+ community.

“But in having conversations, uncovering this research and finding representations, we are changing narratives and helping so many people still living in their shadow.

"Today, in 2022, we are more widely accepted, but as this research suggests and the journey that still lies ahead of us, there is still a long way to go - we need to all have more discussions."

Daniel Harding’s book explores the role of the ‘Gay Best Friend’ and other pertinent conversations. (SWNS)

Stories and infographics by ‘Talker Research’ are available to download & ready to use. Stories and videos by ‘Talker News’ are managed by SWNS. To license content for editorial or commercial use and to see the full scope of SWNS content, please email [email protected] or submit an inquiry via our contact form.

Top Talkers