Why this couple chooses to be child-free

By Emma Dunn via SWNS

A young couple are child-free so they can be “selfish," take naps and go on vacation whenever they want. They are so sure they don't want kids that he had a vasectomy.

Indi, 25, and her husband Heraldo Uribe, 34, are intentionally child-free and consider themselves as DINKS - which stands for 'dual income no kids.'

The couple, who have been together for five years, enjoy working out together, traveling, going for spontaneous dinners and taking naps.

Both Indi and Heraldo, a car salesman, say they have always known they never wanted children because they are “expensive."

Also, they both want to be “selfish” and “spontaneous” in their child-free lifestyle.

Heraldo had a vasectomy in June 2023 as they don’t see children in their future - and he was 100% supported by Indi.

Indi, a make-up artist and business coach, from Sydney, Australia, said: “I’m selfish and choose not to have kids because of it.

“I’d rather be selfish without kids than have them and still want to be selfish.

“I want to take a nap whenever I want. I want to go for dinner when I want.

“I don’t think I could afford kids. My husband got the snip so we can live forever in our DINK era.

“The DINK lifestyle is a bit selfish - in the best way.”

Heraldo, from Santiago, Chile, said: “I can focus on what I want - my career, my commitment as a husband and helping others.

"The DINK lifestyle allows me to almost get my childhood back and enjoy a stress-free life.

"Your life is yours. Everyone else already lived their life by their design so don’t let them dictate what you do with your opportunity. Life is a gift so use it to write your own story.”

The couple met when Indi was working at a bank and Heraldo had taken a break from serving in the army in 2018 and had moved to Australia to learn English.

The pair would spend their lunch breaks together communicating through Google Translate while Indi helped teach him.

Indi said: “He was in the military and came to Australia to learn English. He ended up not going back.

“We spoke about kids in the first few months of dating - so we knew we were on the same page.”

Heraldo proposed in November 2020 and the child-free couple tied the knot in August 2022.

The eldest of four, Heraldo grew up looking after his younger siblings, This made him realize having children wasn’t what he wanted for himself.

He said: “As an adult, I finally feel like now I can choose to be childfree and say goodbye to the responsibilities that were burdened on me as a child.

“It is my chance to enjoy a carefree life."

The pair like to wake up and go to the gym together before going to work and then enjoy an evening together walking their dogs and having dinner.

On a weekend, Heraldo often comes to work with Indi, before they come back and take an afternoon nap.

They make sure to go on vacation at least once a year and love the freedom they have to take a trip to see friends or go on other travels whenever they want.

Indi said: “It’s the ability to be spontaneous. If we want a lie in we can. If we want to visit friends we can do that.

“I want peace and quiet and kids are noisy. I don’t see how a child would fit into our life.”

After getting married the couple decided Heraldo would have a vasectomy as Indi wanted to come off the pill after struggling with birth control symptoms.

Indi said: “Two weeks after we got married we got questions saying ‘When are you having kids?’

“We said we weren’t going to and they thought we were joking or that we would change our minds.

“They’ve realized now we mean it after Herlado got a vasectomy. Some people say they are disappointed in our decision.

“I made my choice to not have kids. I’d rather regret not having children than regret having them.”