A former financial advisor now makes about $5,700 US a month as a professional dominatrix - and says clients even ask permission to "lift their pinkie finger."
Talita Booyens, 27, whose pronouns are they/them, quit their job in February 2018 and took up stripping when their sister introduced them to a club.
After experimenting with kinks with clients they looked into BDSM and decided to start their own business as a professional dominatrix.
Talita did it on the side of the stripping job, but took it full-time in March 2020 when lockdown hit and the clubs closed down.
Using the stage name Domme Claire, they run 12 sessions a week, and take the dominant role in a BDSM play scene.
Talita loves to take on the role of a sadist and will inflict pain or be degrading to the submissives - depending on their kinks.
Talita, from Cape Town, South Africa, said: “Pain is incredible and I enjoy doing all these messed up things to my clients.
“A lot of them want to be degraded but sometimes I’ll do it in a kind way.
“So I’ll praise them in a degrading way.
“I never thought this could be a job but I love it.
“I think BDSM is beautiful and I want others to see how beautiful it is.”
Talita started exploring kinks with clients at a strip club when they were introduced to it by their sister.
“I’d quit my job as a financial adviser because I wasn’t happy there and I was just flitting between a few other jobs,” Talita said.
“When I saw all the women at the strip club...I thought they were so majestic.
“I really loved doing it.
“I’d ask the customers at the strip club if they had any kinks and we tried stuff out.”
Talita started looking into professional dominatrices in their area and found that there was only one other.
“I decided it was something I wanted to do so I started setting up the business,” Talita said.
“I took it slow while I was learning but when lockdown hit in 2020 I had no choice but to make it full-time as the strip clubs had closed.
“It was intimidating at first but I learned off other dominatrix.”
Now Talita has built a successful business, making around $5,700 USD a month from sessions and OnlyFans.
“As a professional dominatrix, I am paid to take the dominant role in a BDSM play scene.
“People that come to me often have a lot of control in their lives and they come to me for the opposite of that - it can be therapeutic.”
Talita makes sure to plan the sessions in depth with a client before starting any BDSM play.
“Before the clients get in touch with me they vet me through my website and social to see if I am the right fit for them," they said.
“We then have a chat to discover what they like and what they want and I can vet them then.
“Then I plan the session and then run it by them to consent to.
“We’ll have the session and then afterward have aftercare which I do by love languages.
“So if their love language is words of affirmation I will praise them lots.
“I require a briefing from them to know what they liked or didn’t like so I know what I’m doing well at.”
Talita runs online sessions where the client will submit to them in scenes tailored to their kinks, sessions in person, and bedtime scenes where they help their clients wind down for bed and read them a bedtime story.
“Pain is my most popular request from my clients,” Talita said.
“Pain is incredible and because of the endorphins it releases it makes you feel so floaty afterwards.
“I’m a bit squeamish but I’m learning about needle play at the moment, you can put needles into the skin and tie things like ribbon around them.
“This is a form of edge play so you have to be very careful.”
In the online sessions, clients will have to follow Talita's every instruction.
"They can’t lift a pinkie finger without me saying they can,” Talita said.
“It helps them switch off because they don’t have to think of anything.
“They can just listen and follow the next instruction.”
Talita has their own limits and won’t push themselves to do sessions if they aren't feeling up to it.
“I think a common misconception of BDSM is that it is sexual which comes from people watching porn and seeing it there," they said.
“I think BDSM is a very feminist thing because everyone has equal power in it.
“It doesn’t matter what happens in a scene if it has been consented to as adults.”
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